I am a senior in college, living at home, and my mother abuses me constantly. She tells me that my major(English) is crap, and that my plans to teach will never come through, and that I'm not even good enough to work at McDonald's the rest of my life. She yells at me whenever I eat or even get a drink of water. She says she wishes I was never born. She doesn't work at all, or take any interest in my education, she just sits on the couch and yells all day. I cannot afford to move out. The apartments in the area are EXTREMELY expensive, and to pay for them, I will have to work full time, as well going to school full time. I really want to focus and do well in school so that I can get admitted and get a scholarship to graduate school. I'm not even a bad student, I work really hard and have A's and B's. I don't party or drink either, so I don't know why she keeps saying these things to me. How do I stick it out in this atmosphere for another year? My dad sees what is going on and he is sick of her too, but refuses to divorce her, because he thinks that it'll affect my younger brother negatively. What should I do?|||Whatever you do .... don't give up! Words can be cruel but they are "just words". When she says something negative, you tell yourself something positive. I don't know how old your mom is or why she is not working? Is she disabled? Maybe your mom is going through a change of life, or she might be depressed, or both .Or she may be so unhappy and miserable with herself and her own life that she has to explode on you to make herself feel better/worse. Misery loves company. Maybe because she's jealous or envious of you. There could be several reasons as to why your mom is acting out. But for you, I would suggest to carry on the best way you can until you can do better for yourself. Just tell her you love her and tell her it will be okay. Maybe kinda like "kill her with kindness". Follow your dreams. Don't take what she says personally for it could be a underlining problem. I'm sorry your having to go through this, it's got to be tough on you and I wish I could help you more. But keep our chin up and a positive attitude. You can succeed.|||Honey, you're a senior in college. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You're already a success. And your plans for your future, will only bring greater success if you stick to them. There is a lot of anger and resentment on your mothers part but you have nothing to do with that. That's important for you to remember. You stick it out by staying focused on your goals. AND YOU'RE ALMOST THERE!|||Ask a friend to move in with them for a while, maybe until you graduate. Or maybe just confront your Mum and tell her what is bothering you, and to stop. If she doesn't change ask your dad to talk to her for you. Hope that helps!|||She sounds like a very unhappy person and misery loves company. If you want to stick with your studies then you'll have to stick it out with her too. But look at it this way, you are bettering yourself and will be out of there before you know it. Good luck!|||ask your dad to help pay half of rent for an apartment..... or what about a dorm? If she hates you then suggest that she pays for you to live somewhere else... that way she wont have to deal with u....|||talk back to her..dont let her push you around and explain how you feel about the stuff she says to u and if worse comes to worse jus move out live with a relative or a close friend for a while till she comes around...good luck|||Her bitchy attitude will affect your brother worse than a divorce. Stand up for yourself. Be like, EFF YOU Mom, you obviously aren't doing any better beeeyotch.|||yell back at her, move to a different state, and yell at her that she should get a job because all she does is sit on the couch!|||what is with her is she jealous because you are trying to do something with your life i would ignore her and prove her *** wrong|||just find somewhere else to go. a friend a relative it sounds like a box would be better than what you are dealing with. quit whining and do something|||sometimes goodbye is a second chance. if u have a good friend move in with them.|||i am sorry for what you are going through right now!i know my advice may sound like crap but i think its the best i can give!i know your mom always abuses you and that makes you feel really bad but dont react to whatever she might say or do.dont back answer her.you seem to be a really nice person continue to be one.always shower your love on her.tell her you love her and kiss her goodnight.tell her you really appreciate things she has done for you in your life.slowly she'll realise that how ever bad she behaves with you but you always treat her nicely and that will melt her heart and to tell you the truth thats what i did with my step-dad who wwas once my biggest enemy but today he is my closest friend,guide and role model!hope this helps you!|||I would just ignore your mother and focus on your studies...go to a local coffee shop or the library and immerse yourself. Take pack lunches/dinners so you're saving some money...or maybe find some friends who wouldn't mind getting an apartment together to lessen the cost of a rental property...Don't limit yourself because of your mother's problems. As far as your degree goes, English is a very distinguished degree. All you need a bachelor's degree these days to be qualified for most jobs that have the $40,000 to $60,000 range. Try to find a job that is flexible with you so you can get your studies done and get some experience on your resume...see if their are any tutorial positions or teacher's aide positions at your college. That might take a chunk out of your tuition for school. You have a realm of possibilities to work with! As far as your mother goes, she just wants attention. She is probably jealous of you and maybe there are problems that she is dealing with that you don't know about. She sounds like she is depressed about something. She's just being selfish. I would just ignore her and move on with your life and enjoy it as much as possible. Hope this helps!|||honestly, good for you. look how far youve made it. it must be hard, im sure it is. ive had experiences like that too, but youre almost done. be proud of yourself and think about your little brother. obviously, you are not his parent but you being around may be good for him if you say that your mother is that bad. if you have one more year, just accept it. you have to know that you are so much better than her and your hard work is going to pay off. it will all be worth it. before walking into your house, take in the fresh air from outside and see if you can bring it in with you. if she has anything to say to you, brush it off and forget about it. you dont need her abuse and you certainly do not deserve it. youre almost there. everything is going to be just fine, and if not, it will be even better than that. good luck.|||I know youre in a real bad situation at the moment. But my advice would be stay in home and finish your studies. Dont talk to her anymore, steer clear from her, I know shes your mother but clearly she has anger issues towards you, dont know why. When i was a teenager i lived with an abusive father, so i didnt talk to him at all, picked up different activities out of the home, volunteered at the library, sports, even a part time job just so i wouldnt look at him some night i spent at cousins home you know anything just to have some peace and quiet so i could finish my studies, and just say to yourself over and over "sticks and stones" and dont let her break you maintain your focus. Even if a situation is negative you can be positive. Try to find out what activites there are in your neighborhood just go to sleep at home, shell have to get the picture that as long as shes treating you like this you will stay away from her. Or find her a job, sign her up, send resumes for her maybe shell take the bait. Sorry, thats all I can come up with, wish you lots of luck.|||Please know that your Mom has a problem...she is obviously not a happy person and its NOT your job to fix this. Your Dad is no better, he is an enabler, letting her do all this stuff to "poison" the family. Your little brother is already changed by this toxic environment! I hope you can keep in College and do well to have a better life. Can you not talk to a school counsellor about your situation?? There has to be somewhere were you can live and be safe. Living in an abusive home is not good. I wish you the best!!

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